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Self-Persecuting/ Compassion. What is your Choice?

Hey all

Namasthe and welcome to another blog on Voice of Chittan. 

I was reading the Journey of successful women. Then asked myself on “ What is the definition of Success?” “Does someone else validate it?” You all know and It is a bitter fact that Judgemental exists everywhere, how to sail the ocean of expectations!!!!

 As women, we often find ourselves wearing multiple hats in our lives - caretakers, professionals, partners, friends - the list goes on. In the midst of fulfilling these roles, we sometimes forget the most important person: ourselves. It's time to stop the cycle of self-persecution and embrace self-compassion. Let us understand the power of self-acceptance and the freedom it brings.

 Here, I share some of my opinions and insights in the hope of inspiring others to take their stand and reclaim their sense of self.


One of the greatest burdens we carry is the weight of our own insecurities. We constantly strive for perfection, fearing judgment and rejection if we fall short. But I've come to realize that perfection is an illusion - an unattainable standard that only serves to imprison us. Instead, I've learned to embrace my imperfections as part of what makes me uniquely human. By accepting myself fully, flaws and all, I've found a newfound sense of freedom and authenticity.

 Society bombards us with countless expectations of how we should look, act, and be. We're told to be thin but not too thin, confident but not too assertive, ambitious but not too ambitious. It's exhausting trying to live up to these impossible standards. let go of society's expectations and redefine success on one’s own terms. Discover that true happiness comes from living authentically, regardless of whether it fits into society's narrow mold.

Perhaps the most important lesson is the importance of taking one’s own stand and speaking the truth. For too long, we allowed fear and insecurity to silence me, afraid of rocking the boat or causing conflict. But let’s come to realize that self voice matters, and staying silent only perpetuates the cycle of oppression. Whether it's speaking out against injustice or simply expressing my needs and desires, find the courage to use your voice for good.

 Dear Sisters, we have many hats to wear indeed, but in the midst of fulfilling these roles, let us not lose ourselves. Let us stop persecuting ourselves and carrying the burdens of insecurities that we've made up in our own heads. Instead, let us embrace self-compassion, imperfection, and authenticity. Let us redefine success on our own terms and prioritize self-care as an act of rebellion against a society that seeks to diminish us. And above all, let us find our voices and speak our truths unapologetically. In doing so, we not only liberate ourselves but pave the way for a more just and equitable world for all.


With love and empowerment

Dr. Swetha Vishnuchittan. 

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