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Authentication Vs External Validation

Have you ever found yourself constantly seeking approval and appreciation from others?

 Do you feel like your worth and value are determined by the opinions of those around you?

In one of Trivikram's Movies, there is a dialogue where the lead role tries to impress his people but always he receives resentment from his people.... finally, he understands that it is not possible and says   "Now I feel liberated knowing that no matter how well I perform, you won't be impressed."

It's easy to fall into the trap of seeking approval and appreciation from external sources. From social media likes to professional accolades, many of us find ourselves constantly craving validation from others. But what if I told you that true fulfillment lies not in the opinions of others, but within yourself?


The truth is, that the lack of fulfillment within us often drives us to seek approval and appreciation outside. We become dependent on external validation to feel worthy and valuable. But this dependency is a fragile foundation upon which to build our self-esteem. It leaves us vulnerable to the whims of others, constantly chasing after their approval like a carrot on a stick.


To break free from this cycle of seeking external validation, we must first look inward. We must empower ourselves by recognizing our own worth and value, independent of others' opinions. This requires a shift in mindset – a shift from seeking approval outside to finding fulfillment within.


It starts with awareness – awareness that we are, always have been, and always will be perfect as we are. We are not defined by the opinions of others, but by our inherent divinity. What approval and appreciation does such perfection of divinity need? None. We are complete and whole unto ourselves.

By letting go of feelings of inadequacy and weakness, we open ourselves up to a world of self-empowerment. Instead of seeking validation from others, we can offer our healing hand to those around us. We can be a source of strength and support, not because we seek approval, but because it is our true nature to do so.

When we fix ourselves upon the belief that we are reflections of divinity, we no longer feel the need to "appear" a certain way to gain approval. Instead, we can be authentically ourselves, knowing that we are enough just as we are. And in doing so, we effortlessly attract admiration and love from others who are drawn to our authenticity.

So let us embark on this journey of self-empowerment, guided by the awareness that true fulfillment lies within. Let us free ourselves from the need for external validation and embrace our inherent divinity. Only then can we truly shine as the authentic, empowered beings we were meant to be.


I wholeheartedly believe in "Our value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see our worth". I will write a blog in detail based on this in the next episode. 

With Love and Empowerment

Dr. Swetha Vishnuchittan

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